seraphicsun:

I really wish people would stop getting on my case about wearing one pieces swim suits as a trans guy. Do you know how fucking cute I look in a one piece?? And how baggy and terrible I look in swim trunks and a T shirt?? I don’t swim in a binder cuz that’s dangerous, so once the T shirt is wet, it clings to my skin and doesn’t hide my chest anyway! It just makes me look like a 14 year old who’s too insecure at summer camp to take off his top, or Tom boy, neither of which are the looks I’m shootin for.

I just wish people would stop asking things like “doesnt that make you dysphoric??” “How are you not uncomfortable??” Binch I don’t pass no matter what I wear! I’m always dysphoric! Dressing badly isn’t gonna help that! Stop asking trans people why they don’t dress to hide their bodies constantly! Stop asking trans people why they’re not uncomfortable! Stop expecting trans people to be struggling! Stop expecting trans people to hate their bodies! You can be dysphoric and still want to look cute!

I just don’t understand how it’s seen as so reasonable to ask trans people why they aren’t uncomfortable or how they deal with being uncomfortable when showing secondary sex characteristics in public. If someone is constantly asked why they aren’t uncomfortable with something, they’ll start to think that they’re supposed to be! Imagine someone had a tooth gap or a weird birth mark that they never cared about, but people constantly asked them why they were so confident about it. Even if they mean it as some compliment about their self esteem or whatever, it’s still going to sound like people see it as something they SHOULD be uncomfortable about. And trans people have to deal with this constantly about their entire exsistance!

If people are gonna look at my chest in a wet T shirt and think tits = girl, they’re gonna do the same thing if I’m in a one peice, only difference is in one of them I look good.

Just stop questioning why trans people aren’t hating themselves for like 2 seconds. Maybe they are uncomfortable and are trying to work past it. Maybe they aren’t uncomfortable in the ways you’d expect. Maybe they have resigned themselves to the fact that they don’t pass, and have decided to dress in what makes them feel attractive instead. Maybe they don’t give a shit about passing. Maybe they pass no matter what they’re in, but like looking queer. Maybe you should just mind your own damn business and recognize that whatever you have to say about the way a trans person is dressed literally doesn’t matter at all, and they have probably already heard/thought of any comment you have to make about them. Remember that every trans person is different and has different boundaries and reasons for doing things! Just like everyone the fuck else

Okay. Rant over.